Happiness: the biggest relative parameter of life

           I should write at the beginning, this topic is inspired by two songs. One of them is from Satyajit Ray’s popular movie ‘Gupi gayen Bagha bayen’, ‘Ek je chilo raja, tar bhari dukho’. I think all of us from Bengal know this song and the other is from Rabindranath Tagor’s ‘Mayar Khela’. The first few lines of the song is ‘Era sukher lagi chahe prem, prem mele na, sudhu sukh chole jai, amoni mayar cholona’. Ok people who don’t know the songs, the first song were about a king, who is very sad despite of having all the happiness possible and the next one is about love & happiness, searching one of them to achieve the other. If you ask me, I would say happiness is a biggest illusion, only your heart can decide your happiness or sadness. You can’t buy happiness or you can not beg for it. I think we all search for happiness or sometime we earn it or even snatch it. How happiness is a relative parameter will tell you now.

           From last week the north-east England has been turned to white. I never had seen such snow madness in the past 3yrs, continuing for more than a week in the month November. Like other yrs when it started, everyone around me was very happy. For some this is the first time in their life to see it, smell it, touch it, and feel it and for others, its time to play with snow. Seems like the unfinished game in snow will be completed this year! But for me it was the same old trouble knocking the door. I was really sad. Snow so early! I expected no snow this time, as it was really bad last year. The reasons of my unhappiness,                   

1. I can’t ride my bike now, so I have to walk: wastage of time.
2. My snow boot was leaking last year, now I have to buy a new one!
3. Snowing means, the outside temperature is around 1°C to –(6-10)°C, I have to turn on the house heater. How much I’m going to pay for electricity bill! And it is only November, more is expected.

           Even I agree when you walk during snowing, it feels like God’s blessing are showering on you and the beauty of the surrounding can not be explained in words. It feels like someone came with white paint and painted the trees, the houses, the roads, the hills. Latter the sunshine in the snow makes me to collect the glitter in the ground, for the time I forget I’m felling cold. But the truth remains the same, my leaking boot, slipping in the icy road and late arrival in the university reminds me the miseries. So the sadness and the happiness both are my illusion.

           Even I saw it from my childhood, human being is not happy with what they have. They can always see what others have more than them. But they never acknowledge what extra they have! When you achieve some of your desired happiness, you want more and then turned to unhappy again. So it is what we decide ‘Happy forever’ or ‘Sadness is my friend forever ’.